We’ve all been there, that awful empty feeling when you come out of a relationship and think ‘I’ll never be happy again’ and as we tend to respond to losing anything in life with sadness then this makes the grieving process seem daunting. However, if you accept that there’ll be tears, that you’ll probably make a fool of yourself trying to recreate what you had and that eventually you’ll gain the faith to be in a good place as an individual then you’ll attract what you want rather than working like a demon to manifest or keep the dream going.
To help you understand the process further I’m going to take you on a short walk through a movie so you can see for yourself how transformation can come about from heartache. In Under the Tuscan Sun we meet Francis who’s devastated by the sudden end to her long marriage and this has mainly come about through her denial that the relationship was going along nicely but essentially Francis had become complacent and wasn’t living up to her own potential.
In order to recover Francis makes the decision to swap her native America for Italy by buying a house on a whim, it’s not to say that this is a bad decision but changing one’s scenery doesn’t instantly create happiness because essentially Francis is just taking her problem from one continent to another. But in time Francis discovers that the knee jerk decision becomes more about changing herself as the task of renovating a house actually becomes the catalyst for renovating her life. And as she starts to engage with others even when she’s not quite ready to she steps away from her own grief so that happiness grows naturally.
As the movie progresses we see Francis go through a series of experiences that can sometimes seem like she’s making more mistakes, however, if you view this differently then it’s more of a learning curve because the overriding theme here is that she has to become herself again by being open and interested in others and life so that eventually rather than trying too hard at expecting to be in a relationship she gets comfortable with herself and that’s when the ladybird lands so to speak – a metaphor for Mr Alright walking into her life.
By the end of the film her journey is put into perspective by the acceptance that despite the ups and downs she has grown in her ability to relax and let good things come her way rather than chasing them.
So now it’s your turn, given what you’ve just read, what would you like to manifest into your life? I bet there’s a desire besides a relationship hidden deep within the depths of your soul that just needs a bit of prodding and let’s face it love comes along when you least expect it, so go on explore and do what you love first and foremost and see what comes your way.
Written by Lynn Anderton