As psychic mediums, we often get asked questions relating to love, relationships, “soul mates” and where Mr Right is.
Common questions that are asked are, “When will I find my soul mate”, “Is my current partner my soul mate?” “Will I ever reconnect to my former partner/lover etc. who is my soul mate?
So what is our fascination with finding our soul mate?
Of course we all want to find love with that someone special. We all want to find “the one” or want to know if we are with “the one”. As a partner, they are the person – our other half – who understands us, whom we are sexually attracted to, whom we can reveal all of our deepest secrets to, they are our friend as well as our lover. Someone who “gets” us.
People often assume that their soul mate is their romantic partner, when in actual fact that is not necessarily the case. As a soul, we have many lifetimes and invariably we will choose those souls who can help us with our life lessons, those that will ultimately make us a more enlightened being. We have probably met many volunteers along the way that have agreed to help us learn some lessons too.
We have contracts, or tick boxes, if you like, to fulfil certain objectives. Many souls that we knew in the afterlife will connect to us here to help us with those lessons. They could be our mother, our father, our best friend, our ex-husband/ex-wife, a teacher, a mentor, as well as our partners. If we look at it in this fashion, then we would call these people our soul connections.
Many books have been written about past lives, including those by Dr Brian Weiss and Dr Michael Newton. Two of our favourites that explain the concepts of this material are by the latter author and are entitled “Journey of Souls” and “Destiny of Souls.”
Dr Newton spent years documenting his sessions, and these books contain his experiences of what people have encountered when they explore their past lives (called regressions), and even what happens after we leave this life. These books also probe into our soul connections and soul groups.
Often, the people from our soul group (soul connections) are there for us in different ways than just a romantic association.
It can be a teacher or mentor who comes into our lives, just at the right time. It could be our lifelong friend who we have known from primary school. Or, if it’s a romantic partner, you will naturally meet at a pre-appointed time and place, without necessarily ever knowing it was preordained.
Take the example of how we met.
Dagmar was born in Germany and moved out to Australia when she was 6 years old. Glenn was born in England and had lived there for most of his life. In 2011, we met at the Arthur Findlay College, a college for mediumship development in Essex, England. We went on a date after the course, and the rest is history. Neither of us were really looking for a relationship at the time, but something just clicked between us. For us, a lot of circumstances had to align, especially when you consider the geographical distance involved. Moving half way around the world, leaving family, friends, career and the familiarity of ‘home’ was a huge step, but it just felt right.
Think about how you met your partner or ex. Was it through school or work, through a hobby, at a friend’s engagement or family BBQ? Now think about all of the circumstances that needed to come together for that connection to be made.
There will be circumstances that mean you do meet the person that is right for you at a particular time in your life. A chance meeting at the supermarket, a blind date, well-meaning friends wanting to set us up, internet dating – they are all ways in which we might meet a potential partner.
What we need to do is put ourselves out there, ready to take that leap of faith when we do feel that that special connection has been made. It might be a look in the eyes, goose-bumps when you find out you both lived within a few streets of each other growing up, or just that familiarity between the two of you, like you just know this person. It will click.
We are all given the opportunity to meet our relevant connections at the time and place that is right, so for those of you still waiting – don’t lose hope. It will happen according to the bigger plan. However, staying home every night waiting for him or her to knock on the door, is probably not the best way to facilitate that meeting. Get out there and enjoy life for yourself first, and accept that what will be, will be.
Sometimes, soul mates come into our life for a time or for a specific purpose. Sometimes in a very good disguise. Think about what you have actually learned from previous relationships.
You may find it hard to accept, but even the ‘challenging” relationships in your life have (or had) a purpose. Invariably they are there to teach us something – it could be about ourselves, or maybe we are there to help them with a lesson.
We do believe that we encounter signposts that are shown to us to lead us to where we are meant to be or what we are supposed to be learning. Soul mates and soul connections are an important part of that process.
As we can see, the term “soul mate” is sometimes misused. But if you find yourself in a relationship that is fulfilling, uplifting and positive, don’t give it a label, just accept that this person probably is here, just for you, for any number of reasons. And celebrate that!